Not a term taken lightly by anyone.
With so many reasons behind why someone would want to end their own lives, it becomes an impossible mission to stop or save everyone.
There are no true survivors of suicide, live or die, nobody is the same once they experience it. The two perspectives can be categorized as either a first or third person account; you want to take your own life or you know someone who does.
I do not believe that there is a single soul on this earth that can claim that they have never considered suicide, even if it is for a fleeting second; the thought that it would be so much easier to not be here any more. The majority of people dismiss the thought as nonsense or absurdity, their own strength and the strength of the people around them give them reason to believe that they have no reason to die.
However, not everyone’s brains will let go of that thought. Be it because of personal circumstances, a chemical imbalance or mental instability, that thought will not dissipate.
Some people want and seek help, others do not.
Unless a person is willing to let you help them, there is very little to be done, yet the people that want to help will always be left feeling insurmountable amounts of regret or guilt; “if only I’d…” “why didn’t I see it?” “why wasn’t I enough?”.
It is never anyone’s fault.
What ‘All the Bright Places’ does, is to eloquently explain these facts from both sides of the perspectives. At the end of the book, the author reveals that the circumstances from the book are taken, to some extent, from her own experience or losing someone that she loved to suicide. The bravery and strong mentality that she displays gives hope to other survivors of suicide, that life is livable, there is always a way forward if you are willing to reach for it.
Beautifully written and inspiring, All the Bright Places captures the hope that we all deserve.
If you need help, look for it, it is there.
You are not alone.